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Man’s Approval vs God’s Approval

I love to watch the travel channel, one of my favorite shows is “Man vs. Food”. Here is some information about me, I do not like to cook, I enjoy watching people cook and I like to try different foods. If you have not seen the show in every episode the host tours an area and eats at different restaurants and ends up at a place that has some sort of extreme food or food challenge. Anyway I was reading my book by Joyce Meyer “Approval Addiction” about how the only approval that we really need is God’s approval, as I read I began to think about the show and how each week the host will take on these challenges. Now there is nothing wrong with challenges, but he will go to almost any extreme including stuffing himself with food almost to the point of being sick. If you think about it we do the same think with people that we want or dare I say need approval from.

Many of us, myself included, have struggled with approval. In the past, this is an area that I have had to deal with and let me just say it was difficult. My need for approval began when I was very young. My parents divorced when I was 8 and since my father was not always around I always felt that I needed approval from him. Most of my life I have felt that I have never met my fathers expectations and therefore have not had his approval. That was the first person I needed approval from, the rest followed in line. In essence I have spent many years trying to be what others wanted me to be and desiring their approval verses God’s approval. Several years ago, I was working at a job that in the beginning was wonderful. I received raises, all of my evaluations were great, I was pleasing my boss, her boss and her boss’s boss. Everything I was asked to do I did, even if I did not have time, or if I needed help. My need to please and have approval sent me on a downward spiral. Eventually I lost that job, I have to admit looking back it was the best thing that happened to me. I not only wanted others approval of me I needed others approval of me. My perspective was completely wrong. I had caused man’s approval to out weigh the importance of God’s approval. During this time in my life it was man’s approval vs. God’s approval and unfortunately I was choosing man’s. As you can imagine I hit rock bottom, and when I did, I cried out to God and yes He forgave me and began showing me how the only approval that I needed was His approval. Now I do still have to keep this issue in perspective and check myself.

Psalm 139: 17-18

17How precious to me are your thoughts, God!
How vast is the sum of them!
18 Were I to count them,
they would outnumber the grains of sand—
when I awake, I am still with you.

You see God cares about my thoughts, my ideas, my passions and my desires. Truth is He cares about me. His approval is all that I need. God’s approval is free and abundant, where mans approval is costly and does not always come. Sometimes approval that you feel you need from man you will not receive, and usually comes with stipulations and conditions. Let me explain, recently I had a wonderful friend of mine remind me of something. She said not everyone is going to like or approve of what God has called you to do. I began thinking about that and she is right, and the truth is I do not need anyone else’s approval. God is the only approval that I need or desire.

Question: Whose approval are you needing or desiring is it man’s or God’s? The choice is yours.

The Imperfect Cup

God blessed me with two wonderful Grandfathers, one of them could fix any type of car or anything mechanical. The other one could make patterns, and design anything with wood. They both loved and enjoyed creating and fixing different things. I can remember watching both of them in there work shops as they worked. I look back now and they were both so different but yet so alike, and both of them had a huge effect on my life. My Granddaddy (this is the one who created patterns and built things out of wood.) collected several different things one of which was coffee cups. All different types of cups from all over the place. I have recently realized that like my Granddaddy I also like to collect coffee cups, but I have changed it some. Verses collecting any type of coffee cups I am pickier than he is, I like unique coffee cups and pottery coffee cups. I came to the realization about the pottery several weeks ago. You see a few weeks ago my mom, my son and I went to see the Scottish Highland games, while there I found a beautiful coffee cup made of pottery. I found out that the gentleman who made the cup made each one by hand. Each cup was hand thrown and unique, none were made with a mold. Due to the cup being so unique I had to buy it. In examining the cup I found that there were imperfections in the cup, it is not perfect, but that is ok I like it anyway.

About a week after I bought the cup I was reading in Joyce Meyer’s book “ Approval Addiction” which by the way is an awesome book. In her book she states that even though we are flawed and not perfect God loves and excepts us anyway. This got me to thinking about my cup, it is not perfect there are flaws, yet this is one of my favorite cups. We are just like that cup to God. When sin came into the world God choose to love us anyway. When we except God’s son as our savior, we are a new creation. You see the cup I have has flaws that can not be fixed or changed. The flaws in my life however can. All I have to do is to allow God to take me (the clay) and mold me the way He wants to mold me. Look at Jeremiah 18: 1-6

1 This is the word that came to Jeremiah from the LORD: 2 “Go down to the potter’s house, and there I will give you my message.” 3 So I went down to the potter’s house, and I saw him working at the wheel. 4 But the pot he was shaping from the clay was marred in his hands; so the potter formed it into another pot, shaping it as seemed best to him.

5 Then the word of the LORD came to me. 6 He said, “Can I not do with you, Israel, as this potter does?” declares the LORD. “Like clay in the hand of the potter, so are you in my hand, Israel.

God may not fix the imperfections that we have gained through life but He does choose to use us in ways far above our expectations, even with our flaws. For example, when I take my finger and circle the top it is not a perfect circle, but I can add coffee and my favorite creamer and that makes the cup become useful to me. You see I truly enjoy a good cup of coffee. I do not like just any coffee or creamer I like specific kinds of both coffee and creamer. As a cup we have a choice you can allow yourself to filled and used with the best that God has for you or you can choose to limit God’s use of you and not experience that full rich robust taste.

Several years ago a music minister Brad Lewis http://bigcloudmusic.com (Thanks Brad) introduced me and the choir I was a member of to the music of Darlene Zschech and Hillsong. One song in particular had such an effect on my life that I still remember it, it is called “Potter‘s Hand”. In fact I can remember the first time I sang it. I remember feeling God’s presence all around me it was truly amazing. I recently listened to that song. The song says:

“Take me, mold me, use me, fill me. I give my life to the Potters hand. Call me, guide me, lead me, walk beside me, I give my life to the Potters hand.”

When you stop and think about the words to the song it is such a wonderful prayer. The last thoughts I want to leave you with are: What areas in your life does the Potter need to mold? When was the last time that you allowed the Potter to search you or lead you?